Fear is often the biggest obstacle to change. What if I can’t do it? What if I disappoint other people and myself? What if I’m not good enough, not smart enough, not confident enough, to actually do it this time?
What if I am successful? I will have to keep that up or I will let people down.
There are many different ways of dealing with fear. One is the “feel the fear and do it anyway” method. This is easiest to do when your anger or stress about your current situation increases to an unbearable level. When you realize that you have nothing to lose by making a change, the change itself becomes easier.
Another way is to remove the fear. You can do this logically, by first writing down the details of the fear and the worst thing that can happen, then writing out the best that can happen. Writing what will happen if you don’t make a change – if you keep doing what you’ve always done – can also create an “ah hah” moment. Take a look at Byron Katie’s The Work if you want a short formal process to work through this. You can also work with a counsellor or coach to discover if there is something from your past that is causing you to be more fearful about this situation than you would be if you let go of the emotion from whatever happened long ago. Techniques such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or BSFF (Be Set Free Fast) can help you let go of fear-based beliefs.
Change is also easier when you feel supported. When you have a friend, family member or coach saying “you can do it – I believe in you!” it is much easier to take a leap into the unknown.
Don’t let fear stop you from being happy in your job.